Deferred blessing

When something good happens, it is a direct blessing from God.

When something bad happens, then God is using it for good; meaning, the goodness will appear later. It is deferred.

This idea is just plain crazy.

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My wife prayed for something and her prayer was answered; but at the expense of someone else (and she felt very bad about this). It's as if there is only a certain amount of goodness in the universe, and for God to help you, he has to hurt someone else.